There is something I practice with almost every couple I work with. Knowing what you want and asking for it clearly. One couple called it a “clean ask.” I loved that phrase! Sounds simple? Try asking someone you love for something that really matters to you. Especially something you haven’t talked about before. Suddenly, you may find yourself explaining why you shouldn’t want it. Or deciding your partner is too busy. Or hoping they’ll somehow figure it out without you having

Relationships are like flowers. They need care! We know this. But finding time for that care can be another matter. You kiss before work, talk over dinner, watch something together in the evening. You take care of the house, make money for the family, and help each other get through the week. All of this matters. These are ways we show love. But do you also have time to enjoy each other as partners and lovers? It’s easy to assume that part will take care of itself. Especially

What does sex look like after 10… 20, 30, 40 years together? Some days, you’re tired and want nothing. Some days, you want sex because you miss feeling playful and alive. Sometimes, something completely unrelated to your relationship turns you on. Or turns you off. There are moments when all you want is to be held. And moments when you notice your partner hasn’t initiated in a while and start wondering: “Am I still attractive?” “Do they still want me?” There are many reasons