There is a communication challenge that shows up with almost every couple I work with. It is universal, and often surprisingly sneaky. It is the ability to know what you want, and to ask for it clearly. One couple I worked with called it a “clean ask.” I loved that phrase. Sounds simple, right? But it's not so easy to do. When we ask for what we truly want, we step into a very vulnerable place. First, you have to feel the desire. Then you have to allow it to exist without immediately judging...

Every relationship needs care. Not because something is wrong, but because it is alive and changing. Just like the body needs nourishment and movement, a relationship needs attention. Not once in a while, but regularly. Most couples don’t really create time for that. They rely on what happens naturally. A kiss before work. A conversation over dinner. Watching something together in the evening. These moments matter. But they are often not enough to sustain a sense of closeness over time. Life...

What does sex look like after 3, 5, 10… 20, 30, 40 years together? …if love and respect are still there? Honestly? It looks a lot like everything else in life. Some days, you’re tired and want nothing. Some days, you feel anxious and reach for sex to feel wanted. Sometimes, something completely unrelated turns you on. A movie. A memory. A stranger walking by. There are moments when all you want is to be held… and then it slowly turns into something more. And there are moments when you notice...