There is a communication challenge that shows up with almost every couple I know. It is universal, and surprisingly sneaky. It is the ability to know what we want and to ask for it clearly. One couple called it a "clean ask." I loved that phrase! Sounds simple? Well, not so easy to do. When we ask for what we truly want, we step into a very vulnerable place. It looks like this: First, we need to feel the desire. Then we have to allow it to exist without immediately judging it